The V word

I wonder what makes it OK to talk openly about breast health yet we still find it awkward to discuss  problems with our downstairs department?


We all get a bit embarrassed, give it a silly name and laugh it off. Privates, mini, noo noo. God forbid we use the medical VAGINA word.

Yet suffering problems in THAT area is just as valid and distressing as suffering problems in any other part of the body. So why do we all blush and stay hush?

Let’s get it out there. Not literally. But let‘s talk about life’s leaks and bulges. In other words, incontinence or prolapse.

It’s a fairly non dinner party subject –   but a third of women suffer at some point in their lives.

chilcbirthChildbirth is superb at messing up our pelvic floor but is it any wonder?

Babies are big in relative terms to a body part that isn’t.

A few famous women have spoken publically about childbirth and the problems it can cause which will hopefully give other women the confidence to follow suit and visit their GP if they are concerned about problems they too are suffering.


British actress Kate Winslet laughed about it on the Graham Norton show as American rapper 50 Cent sat in awe when he learnt that three sneezes in a row can trigger an oops moment for  women.

Olympic athlete Denise Lewis, TV host Nadia Sawalha and Ronnie Wood’s ex wife Jo have all openly told how they have taken steps to fix incontinence.

The latest is Daniella Westbrook who has been criticised for going public about a revolutionary laser procedure to fix her downstairs to give her a designer vagina after children.

Instead of questioning her motives maybe we should praise her for being brave enough to be so open and for bringing the subject up.


It means the serious issue of problems with women’s pelvic floor after childbirth, including  incontinence and prolapse, can be brought out into the open. For women too shy to talk about it, they can at least read the stories and go to Google to look at ways to fix it.

For most mums who suffer it is laughed off – squeeze before we sneeze or cross our legs if we laugh too hard,.

But the truth is it’s an annoying and embarrassing problem and one that can easily be fixed with good pelvic floor therapy available for free on the NHS.


All you have to do is ask your GP for a referral.

Sadly in the UK this is not given much publicity at the new baby stage and women just put up and shut up until in some cases it gets progressively worse as the years go on.

baby feet

In France physio sessions are offered as standard to new mums in a bid to make sure it is fixed early on and women learn how to exercise their pelvic floor muscles properly – for life.

So why not give it a go? What have you got to lose? f it doesn’t work there are natural surgical solutions like a sling made out of your own tissue or a Burch colposupension which is like a hitch and stitch.

As somebody who has run Sling The Mesh campaign for two years my advice is steer well clear of a day case op called the TVT or TVTO which uses a mesh tape sling to hoist things up.


For some women it can work wonders – but for others it can cause life altering risks of chronic pain in the pelvis, groin and vagina which has left women struggling to walk, live their normal daily lives and even losing their sex lives.

It can cause lifelong UTIs, problems going to the toilet and allergic reactions leading to inflammation in the stomach or triggering auto immune diseases.

You might be one of the lucky ones – but you might not. Do you really want to play Russian roulette with your health? Some women are fine for years and then, as if from nowhere,  experience problems up to 14 years down the line.

Try natural solutions and say no to mesh surgery


Yes incontinence and prolapse are embarrassing and distressing – but a mesh operation could just make it all so much worse.

For information on how to fix things naturally visit Facebook page Sling The Mesh Natural Solutions for life’s leaks and pelvic organ prolapse: